I’ve searched for a love so deep I could get lost in it and yet feel so safe.
A love that I can relate with, without uttering a sound
A love that know me inside out and condemns me not
But helps me see who I can be and helps me get there
A love that forgives and indeed forgets
A love that would sacrifice everything for me and despise pride
Just to see the smile of satisfaction on my face.
But I should say, I have searched in all the wrong places,
Because I still have not found this love
In all my countless love affairs I have given my all and gotten nothing back but pain
I feel less than I am and look less than I should
Yet the frustration remains. Never having enough of what I truly desire
The groan of satisfaction, that feeling of never ending bliss I find it not.
I have searched in all the wrong places
Even in my marriage he does not understand what I need.
If he can’t, then who can?
I have searched in all the wrong places and in the wrong people.
I remember when I was much younger, before I had Betty, Linda and Su.
As I was walked down the street with my friends Brenda and Merda,
A lady walked towards us and told us there was a love out of this world that no one could give
And this love was the love of the one that created the whole world.
She told us we would be happy and fulfilled if we came to know this infinite God
I couldn’t fathom that there could be a love deeper than the one my parents had.
How he loved my mother so…
and the love portrayed on TV screens,
The fairy tale fantasies…
Oh, how the prince loved Cinderella
Oh, how Beauty loved the Beast.
That was a love I wanted.
One that would love me for me, unconditionally
In all my inefficiencies
But that was all they were fantasies and now seeing where I stand
There is truly no one that could give me the kind of love I truly desired.
What I desired was not found in people and so I searched for this infinite God
I searched and I found him or rather He found me,
Drowned me in His love and now I’m swimming in bliss without end.
The youth today often make the silliest to the most dreadful mistakes when it comes to dating and marriage. How do I know this? Well apart from having at least one in 10 couples in our neighborhood or community being divorced or going through some kinda crisis in the home, its all over the internet and in movies today. They make divorce and cheating look like something in the norm, which is WRONG. There is no real respect for the dating/ courtship relationship anymore and that needs to change. I’m not going to talk about marriage or anything like that per say (not really in the place to ’cause I’m not married…yet. LOL). What I’m really going to focus on today is the most important relationship ever!!!
The relationship we have with God is the most important because to be honest there are so many things your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your parents or even your spouse cannot give you. In the truth of this we could get frustrated with the fact that we aren’t getting exactly what we want from our partners and the thing is, its not their fault.They are human beings like you and are limited in what they can give to you. This is because there is a space in our hearts that cannot be occupied by anyone else apart from God (it’s a God shaped space –only-). Once we try to fill that void with people we just plunge head first into disappointment and frustration.
Here are a few thoughts on what Love is from @oruare and @lajuiren (Instagram handles)
“I’m an unapologetic, cheesy, sold-out lover! I enjoy the purest, truest, deepest, and never-ending kind of love. I make boast to say the love I share with the one I love isn’t shared by any another. He loves a lot of people too but He loves me not just perfectly, but uniquely. He loves me in a way only Him can love and only I can receive. I am not scared to show them. I love Him, but what blows my mind even more is that He loves me too, He even loved me first! My lover wants to be your lover too, He’s still asking for your heart. Don’t worry I’m happy to share this one”. – @oruare
In a short session I had with the lovely energetic Mrs Laju Iren, I asked her a few questions and these are the nuggets she decided to share with us below.
DEFINITION OF LOVE
“ I remember the wooden cross, blood stained for my sake and I realize that love is sacrifice. God gave us His son and He died for us. When we understand that love is a sacrifice then we know that every romantic relationship should mirror the union between Christ and the church. We should take it more seriously.
Love is beyond feelings. I think your emotions and feelings should go in the direction of love not the other way round. Love is patient, kind, is not arrogant or self seeking (1 Cor 13: 1-14). The bible definition of Love is GOD“.
WHAT IS THE LOVE OF GOD?
“Love is everything I just said above and it is also the fact that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us and that’s the kind of love we should share with the world. However I will mention this, if you are in a dating relationship, I wouldn’t really advise that you push for unconditional love because, I believe marriage is a time to love blindly and courtship is a time to love intelligently; because sometimes you may be dating someone who is beating you or cheating on you and the you say ‘oh! The love of God, forgiveness of God’. That’s not the love of God, that is scary. If you are in a dating/ courtshing relationship then you need to date with your eyes open”.
WHAT DO YOU THINK IS THE CHALLENGE OF PEOPLE DEVELOPING THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD?
“I think it is understanding, because many people think a relationship with God is about what they can do. Yes we have our own responsibilities to play but it is God “that works in us to will and to do of His good Pleasure”-(Phil 2 :13). We need to have a good understanding that we are the finished work of Christ and that happens when 1. We go to a good church that is Christ centered”.
Answer these questions
- What is your Church’s approach to the preaching of Jesus Christ?
- What is your pastor’s understanding of the word of God?
It is beyond “I will study the Bible for myself”. Ephesians 4(verses: 11-12) makes it very clear that we need ministry gifts, pastors and prophets says…. So we need a pastor over your life and of course prayer and study of the word. But if you have a good pastor and a good church and you apply what you are being taught.
When you understand:
- It is God that works in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure
- Gods works are not a pre-requisite but as fruit of salvation
- When you have a structure that enables you pray and pray rightly. Not just praying because you are asking for things but praying to develop your relationship with God.
- When you have a structure that teaches you the word and teaches you to evangelize.
I think that’s a major game changer. So understanding is very important because the devil tries to fight your understanding of the Word: sometimes people have gone to church 10 years and they still cant understand the basics of their faith but they know how God want to make them rich but the riches and our inheritance in Christ is much more. Christ himself is our inheritance”. – @lajuiren
With all this being said, should I be honest with you? The main problem we have as human beings is we do not like to leave our comfort zone. If I am lying please tell me.
Getting too comfortable with where you are will be the death of your progress in life. Move out of your comfort zone.